I still miss Jeremy. He was the reason why life was livable. I don’t think I will recover from this. The so called new normal is shit. We complimented each other perfectly. He helped me with the stuff I was bad at, and I helped him with the stuff that he was bad at. And we truly excelled when we worked on stuff together. He once said to me in the early months of our relationship that he did not know what to do for me. He could not buy me stuff because I already had things and I did not need things to be done. I was surprised by this comment, and I think it really showed me what kind of existence he lived with his mother. He was nothing but a tool to be used and women only wanted gifts from men. I told him that all I wanted was his time and his friendship. He seemed perplexed by this reply but as time wore on, he became comfortable with the idea that a person could value his company and time more than material objects and slave labor.
He was truly an amazing man. The fact that he did not go down the angry rabbit hole after years of emotional abuse from his mother and the lack of caring by his father was impressive. The luminous being that ran the Jeremy body was a brilliant star of kindness, creativity, and loyalty. So many words come to mind when I try to describe him. He was complicated. And I often find it disturbing that the world would probably forget who he was since his luck with good opportunities were disturbingly stolen from him. He was supposed to do a national commercial for Toys R Us, he was supposed to do voice work for the Star Wars Mandalorian series, he was supposed to do a part in the Lucifer Series’ Movie. It was like an evil force was out to get him and me. We never gave up fighting that darkness whatever it was and from wherever it came from. He did share his voice on our radio show called User Friendly, which was later called User Friendly 2.0 where we chatted about science, technology, and pop culture. He had a great voice. He had a kind and playful demeanor.
I decided to make a portrait of him after trying to get a copy of his fingerprints from some nasty company that prays on grieving family members. They were selling expensive keepsakes. The local coroner kindly gave me a digital copy of them. So I finally had the image……..what should I now to do with them? Then I decided I would paint a portrait that was unconventional. I had already made a portrait of him in his Landsknecht gear from RenFaire many years ago. He liked it despite the fact that his mother proclaimed that it looked nothing like him. ……What a bitch….everyone else saw the resemblance…….she was just pure f–king evil……
So below is the picture I made to honor him and document just a small amount of the things he liked, enjoyed, or worked on. This all came from within him and not from external family influence. He spent a lot of time alone and liked to read. An avid reader with a thirst for knowledge. It does not fully encompass the complex man, but it gives a small hint of who he was.
G. Winkler (c) 2023